Couples Therapy

I’ve been practicing therapy since 2020, and working with couples has always been central to what I do. Because I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), my training has always centered around relationship dynamics. I’ve completed not only the standard EFT training, but also advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy, and I still consult regularly with some of the best EFT trainers internationally. Relationship work is complex and messy, and I stay actively mentored because I want to make sure I'm continually improving and bringing my absolute best to every couple I work with.

Yes. High-conflict dynamics require clear, active structure so sessions don’t simply devolve into expensive arguments. Rather than acting as a referee or taking sides, my role is to de-escalate tension, keep our time focused, and ensure both of you feel genuinely heard and valued. This is where Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) excels: we map out the reactive cycle fueling your fights, giving you a practical way to step out of defensiveness and communicate safely.

It always saddens me when I hear that past therapy has left people feeling blamed, misunderstood, or stuck. Couples counseling is delicate work that requires specialized, dedicated training in a scientifically proven model. Without this, couples therapy can end up feeling aimless or combative. My extensive training in EFT, the gold standard couples therapy model, helps me ensure that both partners feel equally valued and supported while keeping every session focused on meaningful progress.

Yes. Mismatched desire or intimacy challenges are incredibly common, and it almost always reflects the emotional state of the relationship. When there is not enough emotional safety, sex can start to feel like pressure or an obligation for one partner, and a painful rejection for the other. Additionally, simply talking about sex - what’s working, what’s not working, what feels good, what doesn’t - can feel incredibly awkward or vulnerable. In therapy, we rebuild your emotional bond first, and then we normalize collaborative discussions about physical intimacy, allowing it to become a safe, pressure-free, and deeply fulfilling connection for both of you. 

That hesitation usually comes from two very reasonable fears:

1. The fear of being blamed or ganged up on. Pop culture often portrays couples therapy as a courtroom where a therapist acts like a judge, pointing fingers or taking one partner's side. That is not how I work. My role is never to decide who is "right" or make anyone the bad guy. My client is the relationship itself, and I make sure both of you feel respected, heard, and validated.

2. The belief that needing help means you've failed. We expect ourselves to instinctively know how to build a lifelong partnership, yet most of us were never taught the skills needed to navigate emotional intimacy or resolve deep-seated conflict. Seeking therapy isn't a sign of failure; it’s simply bringing in an expert when a relationship hits a road bump you haven't been equipped to solve on your own.

Yes. A quiet relationship can be just as lonely as a high-conflict one. Often, when big blow-ups are rare, couples have simply traded fighting for emotional distance—falling into "roommate mode" where you're polite, functional co-parents or roommates, but no longer feel close.

We are wired for deep, safe connection, and when that intimacy is missing, you feel that quiet ache. Couples therapy isn’t just for putting out fires; it’s about breaking out of that polite freeze, learning how to let your walls down, and turning a functional partnership into a deeply fulfilling, romantic relationship.

This is extremely common. In fact, most couples I work with navigate one or more of these challenges. Neurodivergence, anxiety, depression, and past trauma can shape how each partner regulates stress, communicates, and experiences connection. Without a clear understanding, these differences can easily trigger misunderstandings and defensive habits. In therapy, we map out how your individual nervous systems interact, so you can work as a team with genuine understanding. If additional support would be helpful, I can provide referrals to individual therapists while we continue to work on strengthening your relationship.

Yes. People often worry that doing therapy through a screen will feel awkward or disconnected, but research and experience show that virtual couples counseling is just as effective as meeting in person. Although it does feel nicer to meet face to face, sometimes it just isn’t feasible due to distance or work or kids schedules. Fortunately, as long as the two of you have a quiet, private room and a reliable internet connection, we can do the same deep, transformative work virtually.